My wife has suffered from anxiety and depression most of her life. She has been under increasingly more stress at work recently and in the last few weeks she has said that her anxiety levels are the highest they have been in 20 years. Everything makes her anxious including me. It's come to the point where I am working away from home and she doesn't want me to call or text her even, just to leave her alone completely. She says she still loves me and wants to be with me but that she just can't at the moment. I've tried to get her on kava but she has had a gastric bypass so it is difficult for her to get it in. Her theory about not seeing me is that she doesn't want me to become a trigger for her anxiety so that we can never be together without her being anxious about me being there. To anyone who has had anxiety to that level, does that make sense to you? It's obviously hard as a husband to be told that you can't be around or even contact your wife without risking your future relationship. The other difficult thing is that there is no way of saying how long this will go on for. She is on fluoxetine which the doctors have just increased from 40 mg to 60 mg daily and she was on the 40 mg dose since before her bypass. Maybe it could be that she's not been absorbing all of the drug because of the bypass and the increased dose may help? Any insights into this to set my mind at rest that this is relatively normal would help. Or otherwise as well of course. Thanks.